come on stream yard all right we are officially live we are kicking this off so today i’m super excited my guest today is michelle newman she is the founder and ceo of the new mid she’s a former award-winning television executive term transformational life coach and host of the new mid podcast which is ranked number seven in the top 10 valuable podcast for midlife women that is quite an honor she helps others take charge of their future and get rid of self-limiting beliefs in order to live an abundant second half michelle thank you so much for coming on pivot me today oh thank you so much for having me april i’d love what you’re doing and i love your guests thanks for having me absolutely so right before um we went live um we were just talking about that michelle’s getting a lot of snow in her house right now well not in her house but jason she’s snow adjacent right now they’ve got a lot of snow in maryland right now so kids are out and playing in it right now yes it is a wonderful it’s a snow day which is a bit foreign to me because i grew up in los angeles so i used to just read about snow snow days and books but it’s kind of fun that my kids are actually doing it and it’s funny because you know i my husband was like michelle we need to put the sticks out in our driveway and i’m like no we’re not gonna get that much snow it’s not that big of a deal oh yeah no we have like nine inches right now cannot see our driveway we’re not driving anywhere so is your husband from there or is he from a place where it snows or did he just know about the sticks um well you kind of know about the sticks because you start to see how your neighbors put the sticks out but he’s from england actually but the other thing that’s funny is our neighbors put the sticks out when it was like 50 and sunny out and i’m like why are they putting the sticks out now like i just didn’t get it and then my husband’s like i think we should put the sticks out and i’m like no it’s okay well then when i finally realized like honey we should put the sticks out you can’t because the ground’s frozen your neighbors knew what they were talking about so yeah so i next time i need i hear i thought they were stupid but yeah no they were actually very smart and i was the one wow you know what’s funny we don’t actually put the sticks out now i’m feeling like a snow newbie because we we get snow in reno nevada but we’ve never put the sticks out and that is brilliant i yeah i have a really long driveway too and it hurts so you kind of need to know where to occur so okay that’s all right okay michelle’s already overcoming in this uh in the pivoting podcast today okay let’s let’s talk about your background you’ve got a fascinating background you um you came from the entertainment industry um i believe you said over 20 years um last role was vp of programming and marketing at cbs daytime i’m i’m really curious how you shifted that i know you developed and launched the um uh let’s make a deal with wayne brady and the talk with sharon osbourne does that sound right yes yes yes yep yep love them to death wayne brady so talented he’s just amazing but yeah no i spent over 20 years in the entertainment industry started out at entertainment tonight date myself with john tesh and mary hart so that was really fun that was a blast i got to meet some amazing people i got to meet like al pacino and cindy crawford i don’t know where the picture is now but i took a picture with cindy crawford and literally i was like here and she was like here and she was gorgeous i mean just adonis she was beautiful and super nice i mean everybody who wanted to take a picture with her because we were all awestruck she just did there and took pictures of them all yeah no she’s super cool super nice so yeah i started there and then i ended up at cvs and um that’s a great place that was really fun and daytime was really fun and um yeah no it was fun doing let’s make a deal we um started in we actually started the show in vegas isn’t that funny so yeah because it was a it was a for budget wise we did it at the tropicana so i know it’s not we used to have to um go there every we we would tape on the weekends because that’s when we can get people in the crowd get the audience so i would fly out to vegas from thursday to sunday and then fly home so that was really interesting and that was challenging because i had a new a new baby so that was kind of hard leaving her but at the same time it was good because then my husband had the bonding with her especially on weekends so that was good but yeah so that was fun and then we started the talk and sharon osbourne is still on there and that was that was crazy but that was really fun and it’s a great show still on there so yeah so i really enjoyed that time there so you’ve had this amazing career in entertainment what was the i mean that’s a pretty big shift what was the catalyst for that shift well you know it’s funny because like i said i was when my first daughter was young i was traveling a lot to vegas i mean she wasn’t even one years old when i was doing that so like her first steps someone else saw which is hard as a mom sure so i got pregnant again with my second and my contract was up after she was about six months old and my husband and i talked about it and i said you know i really i was an older mom i had my first kid at 40 my second at 42 and i was like you know what i really want to um stay at home for a little while so both agreed and so i did freelance and stuff and then my husband got a job that took us to maryland so all of that happened but you know it was interesting because before i met my husband i actually had a brain hemorrhage so i almost died i know isn’t that crazy wow okay so so i didn’t think i was getting married i didn’t think i was going to have kids so a month after my brain hemorrhage i met my husband and then it was kind of love at first sight and we ended up um getting getting engaged six months later and then getting many married eight months later i mean it’s kind of like one of those things like when you you know when you know yeah so so when i had my kids and i had almost died i was like you know what i really life is short i really want to take this time to to sort of you know raise my kids be a stay-at-home mom it was hard to leave really fun but it was just kind of you make those life choices yeah at that time question for you so with the brain did i hear that right that before the brain image you did not want to get married and have kids no i always wanted to but i just figured at that point point it wasn’t gonna happen because i think it’s like 35 36 and by that point you’re kind of like you’ve kissed a lot of frogs and none of them are your prince that’s just not gonna happen for me and it’s okay yeah and then you know i don’t know if you’ve talked to anybody who’s almost died because i had the brain hemorrhage and i’ll never forget when they took me from the gurney to the icu bed it was calm i was like i i literally thought i was dying you know and and for all intents purposes that kind of was at the time but i was like it’s okay like all of the backstabbing at work and the someone cutting you off at the freeway or not getting the promotion you wanted none of that mattered it was like life was good and and i was peaceful and i was happy um but then getting a second chance and then meeting my husband and then having kids it was a little difficult because you know i was you know i was i became vice president was developing these amazing shows um so it was a it was a real interesting pivot point um yeah so when that’s fascinating story there’s about a thousand questions i want to ask them and try to break it down just a couple um how much do you think having the brain hemorrhage influenced you meeting your husband or just the availability okay a lot because can i tell you i don’t think i would have given him a second look to be perfectly you can tell us i don’t know if you can tell him that michelle no he knows he knows i mean april you probably didn’t have this syndrome but like i was dating like the the crazy exciting you know not very committed type of guy my husband is just a great man really great soul uh goofy and i you know and it’s funny i just don’t know if i would have given him a second glance but it was the right time the right moment and it worked and it’s still working we got married in uh 2006 so what are we on 14 almost 15 years yeah wow it’s so interesting that of course what oftentimes that’s the case right we faced this terrible thing by all intents and purposes you had a brain hemorrhage and you almost died that’s pretty significant pretty life-changing and yet something so amazing came out of that experience that may not have occurred absolutely and i think that’s true in life though is it’s when are you open when are you open to opportunities when are you open to meeting people you know what kind of people are you bringing into your life what are you looking for and sometimes you have to have that shift sometimes you have to have like a big incident sort of shake you and wake you up to make you available and and to give you different eyes to look at people at situation with different eyes and i think that’s what really happened to me um i love that phrase to make you available yeah it’s a really good phrase because it for those kinds of big changes oftentimes we are pretty shut off from them absolutely absolutely you know and it does it it it gives you and that’s one thing that can be hard is when you see certain doors close you know as you really want something super bad and it doesn’t happen the more you hold on to that the more you’re looking at that closed door you’re not going to be able to see the other opportunities that are coming your way and you’re not available and open to them and that’s you know with pivoting i think that’s key is it’s quicker you can get over whatever the disappointment is whatever the brain hemorrhages whatever that you know opportunity that you really want it doesn’t come through the sooner you can get through that the quicker you can move on and you can see what else is out there and what kind of energy are you putting out into the universe you know are you because people read your energy whether you realize it or not but if you’re if you’re just acting disappointed like poor me you know can you imagine if i would have been like poor me i almost died you know that’s not fair you know i was like hey i saw my barista and i was like oh i am so happy to see you oh and she’s like here’s your chai tea latte you know but like you know she was like excited to see me because here i am excited to see her and that’s sure and and don’t get me wrong i’ve had a lot of disappointments in my life i thought a lot of things not happen but the quicker you can get yourself like all right it didn’t happen i feel bad but okay i’m gonna move on and and moving forward is key don’t stay still keep moving and sometimes it might have to be the side sometimes it might have to be a little bit back but just keep moving um you know good things can happen for sure you know one one of the phrases we talk about a lot is what is this teaching me um for me i don’t i i’ve never been kind of my personal opinion i’ve never been one that’s like oh everything happens for a reason because sometimes really bad things happen yeah i think we can find reason and we can find things that we can learn from it i don’t necessarily think that it’s all you know uh created that way but what we can do is say okay well this this terrible thing happened what what things can i learn from it what can i what kind of experience that i wouldn’t be able to experience before and and when we look for those opportunities it totally changes whatever just happened to us and some of them can be pretty significant true and the other thing too with that and i totally agree what can you learn from that and sometimes it’s like okay what can i learn so that if i see this happening again i don’t do it again because if you don’t learn you’re gonna keep repeating the same mistake over and over again until you do learn it’s amazing how that it just happens it will just keep coming to you until you finally are like all right i need to face this what’s my part in it i need to own it and then you can move on from there yeah you know it sounds like you have another pivot that i wanted to talk to talk about but first before we go into that i’m thinking about the career that you had before and then leaving that how did you handle one of the things we talk about epiphany is when people make these pivots how they deal with the identity change because if you’re it sounds like you had you know a prominent position a visible position people looked up to you you probably had a team and all these people in your network that kind of make us have this elevated status how do you switch identities and go now i’m going to go do something else where you don’t maybe have that status or that cloud it was hard and i kept looking at my phone i wasn’t getting the same emails that i usually get yeah you know i was getting emails for playdates i wasn’t getting emails from storylines for the young and the restless i was like what’s going on yes that was probably one of the hardest adjustments was not being on 24 7 not you know having to respond for you know what fire there were always fires so i need to put out a fire and now i was you know like setting up playdates and going to singing classes and but you know it’s a it’s a little different because it the identity was from a network executive to a mom and then i realized i need some outlet so i started doing consulting so that helped a lot to be able to do the consulting and stuff like that so that was really that that helped with the adjustment and then moving out here and getting life getting used to living on the east coast it’s very different than los angeles so that was you know another another transition and then starting my business has been really interesting because you know being a solopreneur preneur it’s lonely and it’s up to you you know if you don’t get up and do it that day nothing gets done there’s nobody else doing it so it’s it’s really interesting to take the skills and the relationships that i had before and help me with what i’m doing right now and if i can say anything to you to your folks uh with pivot me pivoting changing whatever it all comes down to relationships so i mean i’m pulling back from my relationships you know 15 years ago and it’s it’s the best thing in the world to have somebody pick up your phone call you know it really is and return your texts or emails so whatever you’re doing or whatever you’re going to pivot you most likely sometime in your life through linkedin or emails or however are going to reach back one day to to to use your contacts that you’ve heard with whatever you’re doing so so it’s all relationships so don’t open any bridges don’t burn the bridges and and the other thing i heard in there is you know if possible continue to foster them because yeah absolutely eventually that will come around that you might need them or they might need you and um yeah so yeah and that’s the other thing that’s been nice it’s been nice for me to be able to help help some of my friends too as well um with my podcast the new mid i’ve been able to bring on some of my friends who who are in midlife who are still acting or in the entertainment industry and give them a voice and stuff like that so it’s been nice it’s been really good so what made you decide to uh start the podcast well you know it’s funny because um i’m gonna be perfectly honest with you being in the entertainment industry especially in daytime the the advertisers love 18 to 49 like that is their their demo so when i turned 49 i was like oh my god i’m about to become irrelevant like i don’t want to be irrelevant oh my god as soon as i think of it yeah right and i was like i didn’t want to party nothing and so what a great example for my kids right so my mom and my best friend my my parents both my parents came out and my best friend from la surprised me and showed up and that was i didn’t realize how much that would mean to me and then a couple of my girlfriends from here in maryland that meant the world to me and then i was like what am i doing like this is ridiculous like i’m still young who cares 50 is just a number and by the way tell people you’re 50 you’re doing pretty good like yeah so so then i was like you know what i want to help other women like me like i want to help them reinvent themselves and i want to help them realize their purpose and their clarity and if we need to you know just what can i give them how can i help women like me realize that it’s not bad it’s not over it’s only we’re still climbing so i talked to loco i was good friends with the gentleman who fred manning who owns manny media and he owns the local radio stations here that are all music by the way and i talked him into giving me a half hour on the radio so he’s like well it was funny i put the deck together for the new mid and i was like look at all these women who are amazing who are in midlife like they’re crushing it and i think there’s an audience out there and i really think people want to hear this and we have a lot a lot of local good local people here in frederick so i literally got to the fourth page in the deck and he’s like done let’s do it that’s like yes wow wow so you know so i used my skill i wasn’t radio but i was tv so i understood that and i didn’t know where to go and i’ll tell you right now i’m not tech savvy i’m just not so it was wonderful to have him you know believe in me his crew there at the radio station they’re wonderful they’re super helpful for me with um editing and and promoting it um so that’s been great so that’s been that was uh it was a year in october so that was exciting so i’m about 18 months in so that’s been fabulous and then from there where i met you you trying to figure out my brand of brand builders um they were like michelle you need to be a life coach like you’re so bubbly and energetic and and i used to be an aerobics fitness instructor i did spin and and all this other stuff and um they’re like you’re a natural teacher and i was like i don’t know should i shouldn’t i and so then i was like you know what you’re right and then people just started coming and i have this amazing academy april of midlife women who are just crushing it it’s just it’s a great community because i don’t know about you but i love community and with this pandemic and isolation it’s just so nice to have a great group of women huge difference so i heard so thank you for sharing that that is amazing and community is really what it’s all about and a lot of what why we show up and do the things we do is being part of and also creating community for people like that um there there was a lot there’s a lot of change i mean i love your background and i i still want to ask about the um um the iron man as well we’re gonna get to that here in a second but there’s so much change in that michelle those changes those all take a lot of courage where does that come from where does the the backbone to make all these significant changes in life come from okay so i think this is i think men do this much better than women to be perfectly honest but you just push ahead and you’re just like i’m gonna do this and you just believe in yourself and you just what can go wrong they’ll just say no you know yeah i was so convinced i was so convinced and i just knew it in my bones and when you know that when you have that conviction you can move mountains it’s amazing what you can do and just having that faith and belief in yourself is you it’s also contagious i mean people see it in you and they get swept up in that so when you have this like unwaiter unwavering faith in this project or this launch or whatever it is people get excited and they get swept up in your enthusiasm for it absolutely yeah totally that’s huge huge so tell us about um tell us about the iron man tell us that okay this is yeah this is crazy this is pre-kids we were talking about that three children our race stories before kids yeah exactly so i was hanging out with a group of crazy people and we started doing i started doing triathlons because i wanted to get over my fear of the ocean so i um i know which is crazy because i lived in manhattan beach and hermosa beach for a long time so it was good not to be scared of the ocean so i started doing mini triathlons and then graduated you know to olympic then half iron man and you start hanging around with these people right because you need to train and all of that so then they’re like let’s do an iron man and we’re like cool well we’re gonna do one let’s do it somewhere fun so we’re like yeah where do you want to go so somewhere fun and somewhere we could qualify to get in those are two big big things and so revealing how uh new zealand we did it in new zealand 2003 and um oh my gosh it was fun it was a lot of work like all you think about is what you’re gonna eat when you’re gonna sleep what your training schedule is and then work family everything else is like way i don’t know how i kept my job during that time it’s your full-time job it is you can agree before work and after work and yeah so so that was pretty funny well we were doing a century ride literally in palm springs literally one month before the race by the way it’s a 100 mile bike ride for those who are oh yeah yeah so we were at 50 mile 51 i kid you know it and we were in a peloton we were in a group and someone behind me took out my back tire so the the the next i mean i remember looking down to see that this person took out my back tire and the next thing i knew one of my friends was over standing over me going oh my god are you okay are you okay i had a concussion i had broken my ring finger and i didn’t realize what was going on with my right knee but after several doctors and finally i went to a pt in santa monica who’s amazing um he literally took my leg like my knee was bent and he took the bottom part of my leg like my shin and here’s my knee joint and it went like this and this like like this like that’s not supposed to do that it’s like no it’s not so i had a torn posterior cruciate ligament the pco which is very hard to tear by the way it’s really our go-getter so yeah yeah absolutely so one month before i tore my pcl and i was like i didn’t know so i was in pt like religiously until i went you know he tried to you know put me back together as best month before one month before i paid all my money i bought a new bike you know i’ve done all those hours of training i spent christmas day you know out on pch you know so um yeah so we get there two days before the race i can’t walk so the day before the race i just lay on the couch the entire day and pray i can do the iron man and sure enough somehow i got it done it was 15 hours 15 hours but i didn’t i was hoping to do it in 13 hours but it took me two more hours but hey i got it done oh my you said two days before you couldn’t walk i couldn’t walk no because of your knee injury because my knee injury because we got to new zealand and there was a huge festival so you want to walk around and you want to do the town so i was walking around and going to all the booths and everything and setting up my bike and then all of a sudden i was with my friends and i was like oh my god i can’t walk like i can’t put any pressure on my right leg and they’re like oh my gosh so luckily one of the guys in our group was dating a nurse and she came for the she came along and i was like oh my god what do i do and she’s like nothing she says you need to lay on this couch for the entire day and see if you can walk tomorrow i was like okay wow and you still did it i mean did people support that i feel like people around you would be like this is a bad like well you know you’re without the traveling no you’re with triathletes they’re like yeah yeah exactly stuck it up yeah yeah you know what april i have to tell you though you know we’re talking about pivoting and we’re talking about you know what does it take to get to the next level yeah honestly and i think your audience could relate to this but it does take a lot of discipline and i think being a former athlete and i think you could relate to this you learn how to have that kind of discipline you learn what it takes to like get up every morning make sure you’re doing your morning routine make sure you’re following through especially when you have your own business because like i said before if you’re not doing it no one else will be doing it sure you know and i have to say i learned the daytime soap opera actors they are so disciplined and they do their homework and the stuff they have to do is incredible they were great examples and i also have one other example too betty white i had the fortune i know i know right i mean she’s everything you think she would be i had the fortune um the opportunity to spend an entire day with her we were doing a part pilot for the 25 000 pyramid and she was a celebrity um contestant and then there was a regular contestant that she’d work with she showed up with just her makeup kit no entourage you know she wasn’t like fancy she wasn’t demanding anyone who wanted a picture with her anyone who wanted to talk to her she was just kind and then she was always she wanted to make sure the executive producers were happy with her game play that she got everything she needed to do i mean such an example of a great workout down to earth happy laughed she laughed all the time just easily laughed you know so so i i felt very fortunate to have been around some amazing people i love that you tell the backstory of that because it’s easy if you’re on this side of the camera to assume that maybe there’s a natural gift or it’s not as hard it’s not they make it look easy right i mean what we’re seeing looks easy and i love you painting the picture of actually it’s tremendous discipline and it sounds like a lot some of the people at least betty white has some humility and always a student and i love that good because i love that woman i’m so glad to hear that oh yeah i didn’t you know what it was i’m dating myself but it was in the days when i didn’t have a camera on my phone at that time and i’m like oh i would have taken a picture now for sure for sure oh she’s so hilarious i love betty white quotes um so so um i real quick i love how you were talking about being a former athlete that teaches you um discipline but it also teaches you what we were kind of joking around about of uh what’s the phrase embrace the suck i think david goddard i think it’s from the marines originally anyways um that it’s it’s uh you’re not gonna love every step of it it’s really consistent execution that gets us there and especially when we’re a business owner that’s tough i mean to your point that’s the biggest adjustment so i work with a lot of business owners and many of them are much larger than that but sometimes they’re newer you know less than five years and that’s an adjustment of if if i don’t show up if i don’t move especially if i’m a solopreneur nothing moves ahead unless you get up and you direct your team or you do it yourself and that’s such a big adjustment because when we come from the corporate world we of our achievements and we’re like well i did this and i did this and i did this and not to downplay the achievements of the corporate world but they’re usually collaborative events it’s like i did this well i t worked which is how you got on that video and you know the ops team was working fine which is how you got to the right location because someone else booked your trip and it’s actually so much more collaborative and then you own your own business and you’re like oh well this is going to be this is gonna be interesting i need to make sure that all these parts and pieces move it’s it’s a huge adjustment for new entrepreneurs i’m glad you shared in your your journey no doubt there was many hiccups along the way yeah no it’s great and it’s it’s consistency it’s just being consistent and and like malcolm x says the more you do something the better you get it than you know and it’s true it’s absolutely true so i just want to encourage people to not get discouraged but when it is hard you know what you’re right where you’re supposed to be so just to figure it out keep going um and show up show it for yourself show up for the people that you’re serving and they’ll be there it just takes some time in this space since you’ve made the transition over to to coaching into podcasting have you thought about throwing in the towel have you ever been in the morning absolutely well yeah i mean i mean you’ve got to admit it’s it’s a it’s work doing this podcast you know i mean it’s not it it and it kind of crossed me up because there’s a lot of people like i want to do a podcast you’re like okay but what type of podcast are you going to do some people will just turn the microphone on and start talking which is great but you and i we do interview podcasts you know and so and and you know like for instance i’m going to be interviewing joan london tomorrow and i mean this is all i have a lot of homework and i’m you know she she interviews people for a living so interviewing her michelle it’s just a little intimidating right but you know so so that’s great but you know and then you know having my coaching and continuing like you are a great example of this continual learning just you know continue more education up in your game and then you know there are two children in the house that need their mom you know that are virtual learning so that’s always exciting and then you know there is such a thing as social media so trying to learn all of that as a midlife woman is very fascinating too so absolutely it’s a lot to juggle but it’s fun so we were so earlier actually i was just talking to um to kristen cullen from grand builders group we were talking about the social media hurdle that a lot of people face so was that a hurdle for you it just being much more what i’ve seen in the past is just being much more visible in social media that that sometimes can be a hurdle for people did you struggle with that okay yeah so if you if you talk to any like i know i and and i apologize for the guys out there i know your audience is mostly men so this is you can talk to your wives or your girlfriends but especially moms if you were to grab a mom’s phone and look at her camera it’s all her children never wear she’s not in it at all like it’s her children or it’s her husband and her children yeah it’s not important sometimes so can i tell you how hard it is because everybody’s like oh my social media you gotta post pictures of yourself and i’m like scrolling through my phone going i don’t have any of myself here’s my linkedin photo use that one instead it’s totally true you know so so i’ve just recently been getting better and i’ve been like giving my phone and my husband and i’m like okay take a picture of me and i’m like true you know how does that look it’s just delirious so i i was thinking when i when i got into podcasting i’m like the thing i wish i would have known more about is posing because like every we’re getting we’re getting real here on this so every time so my sister is this amazing makeup and hair artist she just she does it for magazines and for movie shoots she’s just unbelievable right none of those skills translated over to the sister right so every photo that was taken as she would say i stood like a linebacker like the photos going i’m like you know every single one and she’s like turn sideways pop the hip dude i had yeah one foot in front of the other you know yeah i look like i was carrying a kettlebell in every photo that was taken of me and she’s like why do you do that no this is terrible so um i took her out of like that’s what i needed to know more of is like how to be photographed because i was like yeah those photographs look amazing she’s like you know they took about 800 of them for that one photo and for anyone who’s out there who’s about to have a photo just so you know i mean it’s just anyways it and that’s a part of this the your your personal brand and for the podcast and for the coaching that you’re doing you really have to have this robust personal brand which is which is so important but that is the flip side of it the images and all the social media that’s a piece of it but you know what’s interesting so i interviewed uh sir richard branson’s former attorney and she said because i was like okay you gotta tell me what is a billionaire’s mindset like he she was she still she was one of the very first attorneys for virgin wow he was on the ground floor and she had some interesting stories before who you know who he is now one of the one of the tips she said is richard’s his brand like he is sir richard is and she’s funny because she just calls him richard you know but um he’s you know when when he was having a trouble with virgin airlines and he and british airway was giving him a hard time he dressed up as an uh as a flight attendant i love this guy no but he jumped out you know he had hot air balloons and yeah he did crazy things jumping out of airplanes and off cliffs and whatever other stuff he does but he’s his brand i mean that is his brand and it really kind of set with me and whoever is doing this type of stuff too you are your brand so what is that going to be so you’ll see me with my kids like i have a mid-life mom who has younger kids and they’re keeping me young and that helps my mindset and so yeah you won’t see me in a bikini with tattoos on the edge of a you know in the beach posing that’s yeah that you’re not gonna see that although i do have to say one of my goals for 2021 is to get back into a bikini i am gonna work on that we’ll see what happens and it sounds like we need a side tattoo that’s what i heard too michelle oh yeah i’m pretty sure that’s what i heard the bikini goes with the side tattoo with the drink on the side of the pool hand in hand i think that’s amazing that’s that’s so important you know okay so we’re we’re going on tangent a little bit i think this is so important michelle something you said that’s so so critical when you’re saying grab the phone of any mom and there’s not photos of her and then as soon as you said grab the phone i’m like i know where she’s going because i had this hurdle myself is i didn’t i’m not of the selfie generation either and so the idea of like hitting that little reverse the camera back on you what’s an adjustment i remember the first time i did it out in public i mean just to be real i felt ridiculous i felt like oh my god am i really going to be like a 22 year old standing there smiling and staring at my phone the answer is yes yeah i eventually i got used to it but that was a huge huge hurdle for me but the point i wanted to make is you said in the camera there’s not a lot of photos of of the mom um this is something i feel really passionate about so i want to point this out moms if you’re listening right now get in the frame with your kids do not say oh i don’t look good oh i’m not dressed nice oh my hair’s not done get in the frame with your kids uh my dear friend um kat and i talk about this a lot that our our daughters are actually best friends your daughter’s watching you you know i’m raising two girls i have a seven and a nine-year-old and if i say oh my hair is in a messy bun i don’t want to get in what am i telling my kids like you have to print before you can get photographed before we can have documentation of our family photo and so i don’t want to lob additional stress and pressure on moms because man it’s it’s tough and it’s definitely happening this season but get in the frame get in the frame gosh they’re watching you i mean we’re role models not just in the times that we want to be but in the times that we don’t want to be right and if i don’t want my daughter to not get in the frame because she doesn’t look good enough to be in the frame then i sure as hell need to get in there with her you know what’s hilarious too is um my daughter my nine-year-old i have a nine-year-old too he one time took my picture and she she’s like mommy look and i’m looking at her and she’s getting rid of my crow’s feet she knows how to do that i had no idea my god i know okay so can i tell you a funny story about starting to learn how to do selfies yes so i have short arms like my husband would always call me t-rex he just thought it was hilarious because i have little arms so trying to do a selfie with little arms is really hard and when i couldn’t do it like you i would only get like this part of my head oh my god some of the first selfies are hilarious oh my god that was a great story you should absolutely share those stories this is why they made like the stick that’s healthy yeah which also i’ve got a major hurdle over i mean it just i just don’t like i don’t see anyone over 35 using a selfie stick i’m not judging you if you do but like i just can’t oh anyways i mean it’s practical but you know what’s funny is um in my facebook group the new med private facebook group it’s for women in midlife every morning it started it’s i’m almost on a year now it started with coved i would go on a walk and i’d be like what day is it i can is it monday like i couldn’t remember so i was like you know what i’m gonna start saying good morning so i started saying good morning to my group and i tell them it’s monday february 1st you know whatever it was that’s today but you know i started in march and then i just started saying you know inspirational quotes because people were sad and frustrated and i was like oh i’m just going to start doing this well now that i’ve been doing it for almost a year it gets easier you know it just gets easier so if you’re out there and you’re trying to figure out if you’ve got short arms like me you have a lot of selfies of your chin you know it’s just showing up and i and even telling the stories like the story you just shared sharing that behind the scenes um you know one thing we talk about a lot um internally is that people will people can admire our accomplishments but they’ll identify with us and our vulnerabilities and so we have to say like here’s my first three selfies they’re all over my chin or here’s me trying to figure out this or or sharing the story about how my sister’s like why do you square off in every photo that’s taken of you it’s terrible like you know turn sideways pop them sharing that it’s the humanity of it it’s like the humanness of the experience and i think we do uh we do a disservice when we take that out of business yeah we and you know i came from the corporate world as well and yeah i’ve been an entrepreneur for a while but definitely the majority of my career i had side businesses but i i mostly was in the corporate world and we we sucked the humanness right out of it we had such perfectly crafted messages and um we were very particular about what we saw as our brand but there was no humanity to it there’s no depth to our brand it was just okay well here’s my deliverables here’s my linkedin profile it’s really interesting you know what’s really interesting and talking about my little one like taking out my crow’s feet on the picture yeah yeah you were saying that like instagram stories and lives are much people are liking them more because they’re authentic so if we were to mess up right now you know it’s live that’s what it would be and i think people are liking that more because they are wanting more authentic they’re they’re tired of the airbrushed and like you know the everything is perfect you know so there he is absolutely so one thing in the content the things that you do within your facebook group and on your podcast you know can you give us some of the insights what the topics that you discuss and kind of the um the journey that you take people through like where do they start at and then where they finish with michelle okay well what’s interesting is i just did a workshop so it’s just so funny that you’re saying that and i’m just finishing it and so one of the things that come to mind is you know any and as a life coach this is kind of life coaching 101 and i’m sure your your your people have heard this before but it’s really how do you look at your circumstances it’s it’s it’s how you think about them it’s your thoughts it’s your mindset because that leads to your attitude and your feelings and then how you’re going to react how you’re going to act and then that’s going to give you your results so it all starts and ends with your mindset and and taking a look at like what are your ims what is that voice in your head what are you saying to yourself is it negative is it positive and then a huge thing for me is who do you surround yourself with and they say you’re the some of the five people that you hang out with but i want to put another little exclamation point on that you should have three types of people in your life you should have the people that who are in your life right now will cheer you on they should be positive they shouldn’t be dragging you down they shouldn’t be jealous they shouldn’t be saying no that’s a bad idea you want to be honest though you don’t want them to blow sunshine up you know you want them to be like hey you know that might not be wise because of xyz and actually have good things about it but not people that are just going to drag you down or people who are just negative and downers all the time the second type of people you want in your life is they’re just a little bit above where you want to be okay so you know they’re they they’ve walked the walk but you’re like oh my gosh that you know i love i love that they’re climbing and they’re close to where they am but they’re a little bit above me and then the next set group of people or you know that you want they should be 10 15 20 years where you want to be so that you can look up that they’ve had the path that they can be like a mentor and they can help you lead the way and then the final thing i’ll wrap up is i really believe that in the law of attraction i believe you put things out in the universe that it’s going to come back to you you know and i try to get people to imagine okay what is it that you want what do you you know my academy is a year-long program so what i’ll do is i’ll be like where do you want to be in 12 months who is that person what do they look like what’s in their life you know and we really break it down and then we go and we back back like where will we be in nine months where are we in six months where we’ll be in three months and then we break it down into 12 week cycles and then week by week so we get really down because you want to do small steps sure and you know atomic havocs tiny habits all of those have really proven to work sure um so we do small little baby steps because it’s a lifestyle like we’re it’s not a quick fix no it’s not something that’s just gonna change overnight but every tiny little habit you’ll build a really abundant second half and lifestyle and then the last thing i will leave you with is something and a lot of people have been talking about this but i’m going to reiterate it is the mark twain eat the frog oh yes first you know it really makes a difference you know what that is we talked about a few podcasts but for those who are listening that aren’t familiar with what eat the frog is tell us michelle so mark twain talked about doing the worst thing first so and he calls that eating a frog so the thing that you really don’t want to do do it first thing and then if you have two things that you really don’t want to do eat the fatter frog so eat the one that you don’t want to do the most yeah and do those first so then you know the rest of the day the worst things you’ve had to do have gotten you’ve taken care of them and they’re done and it’s funny because your frog might change it might move but um just just keeping that top of mind and i have uh one of my clients she’s so funny she she took a picture and showed me she has a big frog as her picture on her phone oh i love it and so it reminds her like in the morning there’s the frog she has to eat her frog so we did a podcast on eat the ugliest frog first and it’s uh talks about the book um as well um but one of the things that we talk about is when we don’t eat our frog that it just dirt it occupies what i was called mental real estate it it doesn’t go away it’s constantly there and i’m like imagine you wake up in the morning and there’s your frog sitting there when you turn off the alarm and you brush your teeth in the morning your frog’s still sitting there you’re constantly aware that you’ve got to do this thing it doesn’t matter what the thing is it could be i have to schedule a doctor’s appointment i’m really dreading i’m worried about the results or it could be i have to fire this client or whatever the frog is it’s this big thing that has to be done and i’ll add and has to be done by you but you’re putting it off it occupies so much rental real estate and one of the things that we talk about is high performers they still have frogs in fact many of them have more frogs they just get really good at eating them fast like oh there’s that thing i don’t want to do it’s not about the time that you dedicate to the frog like oh it’s just 45 minutes no no no it sucked your energy and your mental real estate for hours knowing you had to do this thing and you kept putting it off so you really do get back hours by eating that frog fast yeah absolutely and and right it doesn’t take up the your time your your mental space and you spend so much time worrying about it and thinking about it that it’s like just all that time that you’re thinking about worrying about it just do it yeah and usually they never taste as bad as you think they’re gonna taste right like usually don’t get into it and go oh my god that was way worse than i thought basically that happens but most of the time it’s the anticipation of agony that’s way worse than the agony itself right exactly oh and then the other thing that’s hugely important and this is a tom brady thing too for you gentlemen out there water drink water it’s huge that it may it will make a big difference especially for those of us who are at midlife it’s funny because one of my clients she didn’t realize how dehydrated she was all the time and she she’s like she goes you know what i kind of feel like the tin man i kind of feel like i’ve been oiled like my joints are oiled and a lot of the aches and pains that she used to have are gone now and it does it makes a big difference to drink water helps your brain will help you focus um just so many benefits and then you might want to add some electrolytes in it as well a little lemon little ginger that helps as well not just you know but do drink just water try to cut back on that alcohol especially when you’re getting older alcohol and sugar they um they’re causing they can cause dementia and alzheimer’s so um yeah that alcohol not good for us replace it with water yeah yeah i don’t know um i was just thinking about uh actually one of one of one of my clients that i work with he drinks something called rocket fuel i think it it’s from the gundry diet anyways it’s it’s a combination of a bunch of leafy greens and then it has um ginger in it and turmeric and a couple other things it’s it’s amazing he’s got me drinking it now and i love it you really do feel amazing afterwards and it’s really just a green juice that you’re making at home but you awesome well i think you should put it in the notes the show notes recipe in there peter i’m going to put your rocket fuel in there yeah so um just a couple more questions real quick but first um let me ask you this michelle where do people find you where do they go to connect with michelle well i’m my all my social media platforms are at the new mid so t-h-e-m-i-d-n-e-w and i’m not the corvette the the the engine for the corvette because when you first started and you typed in google the new mid all these corvette engine parts came up and i’m like oh great there’s a there’s a lingerie model named april garcia i was really conflicted oh nice i mean that’s a real problem but we have to uh that seo to get that away from her so i totally hear you so yeah and then you know i’m at the newman.com you know you can reach me there that’s fine perfect perfect um what lies ahead for you what what’s next for michelle what’s what you it sounds like you do a lot of vision casting well it’s so interesting well it’s really interesting that you say that because you know for me i’m really excited to as you you know as being podcasters i i’m really excited to sort of up my game because i really want to serve my clients and and show them and learn from some of the best um people out there so i really want to try to up my game with getting a little more uh guests that that that people will be interested in yeah and uh so that’s really exciting for me i’m also expanding my um coaching practice so i’m going to be launching a digital course this fall which i’m excited about because i have more people who yeah i know you want your digital credits a lot of work but exciting it is it’s a great way to multiply your impact too what’s that it’s a great way to multiply your impact too just really get reach a lot of people that really need what you’ve got it’s a great way to do it yeah so that’s what i’m hoping to do i’m following in your footsteps and then a book so what’s the topic of your tedx talk do you already know um you know it’s between a couple so i’m just kind of ruminating on them right now sure have you taken the um the world class keynote uh i just i did i think that was the last course i took yeah okay that’s my next well actually i’m taking captivating content but then i’m doing the right afterwards oh exciting you know i actually usually ask this question two questions ago and i accidentally skipped it so we kind of talked about this a little bit but i would just ask it more succinctly michelle if you could tell the world one thing what would it be ah you mean besides drink water um well that’s really interesting because i think for women and i’m gonna be i know your audience is mostly male so hopefully bear with me guys but it’s self-confidence i think that a lot of us have a lot huge lack of self-confidence that we put other people before ourselves that it’s easy for us i like to say we give everybody else the whole cookie and we take the crumbs that it is okay we are in midlife now it is okay to start to take the whole cookie for yourself you know other people can eat some of the cookie crumbs too it’s okay don’t feel guilty about it you know grow into the person that you want to be that you know you can be and get the education get whatever that that you need to get you to the next step and don’t stop growing don’t stop learning but really believe in yourself see the person that you are get get from get from behind the shadows you know get get in front of take a picture with you and your kids like be in the pictures be proactive in doing things for your life because you know what we only have one life to live and the sands in our hourglass are getting less and every day is a gift and now is the time to go for it like really dig down deep and and and go keep moving i’m all about moving moving forward if you have to move the side for sometimes that’s fine but stay in motion and keep going and it’s okay and there’s going to be people that are going to support you and lift you up but you know really when you close your eyes at night it’s you and when you open your eyes in the morning it’s you and like every morning i say i thank god i open my eyes and i’m like thank you for today god and help me have a productive day and and then bam and then i’m off to my feet are on the ground i feel my feet on the ground and i know a lot of times people will take their shoes and socks off and you know walk around in the earth to get really grounded well i do that even though i have carpet in my bedroom but i make sure my feet feel the ground in the morning when i wake up like that’s usually important i have water by my bed i drink some water first thing you know and then i do my meditation and my journaling but really whatever it takes for you to get to the point where you believe in yourself where you have a purpose where you have drive yeah do that like grab life by the you know just go for it because you know we’re we’re still young enough we’re still able but you know what these days are getting less so it’s time it’s time to do it now it’s time gosh it’s time to do it now there’s your ted talk right there yeah that’s beautiful it’s funny i think we um i think we quoted tony robbins earlier but he always says when would now be the a good time and i always loved that phrase so the time to do it’s now that’s a powerful message michelle thank you thank you so much for coming on and sharing um your journey and what you guys are doing what you what you’re doing in the new mid and also that transition from the world that you used to be in to this world and the courage and the tools that you use to get you there um provided such great information for us today thank you so much for that thank you so much for having me and i hope i hope some of this is helpful for someone out there sure for sure it is no i as you were talking we wrote down i had lots of um ah man really some really good notes to apply so i think there’s a lot of really um applicable things that we can put into play right away i’ll put the links that you gave us into the show notes so everyone can connect with michelle if you haven’t already um hopped on and subscribed to our podcast definitely do some great information it sounds like some great guests as well great yeah thank you so much yeah no we have um it’s funny i have a woman talking about money right now because we all have you know i think sex and money are taboo topic so you know so having a healthy relationship with money and there’s also a woman on there for you women talking about midlife and hormones and weight and what’s going on with our bodies so all that stuff is really good sounds like a lot of great information so oh that’s great yeah and i love the money topic too we’ve talked about it everyone’s got a money free all right so actually just a little plug for next week it’s american heart association month and it’s all about women and heart and so i have um two ambassadors from the american hunter association talking all about women because heart attacks is the number one killer for women not cancer not breast cancer or uterine cancer it’s actually heart attacks wow they talk a lot about it and the signs and the symptoms that’s going to come out next monday but even more so than that the doctor talks about um covet and heart disease oh interesting really eye-opening shocking some information that’s coming out now with covid wow yeah it’s a must listen to i’m actually gonna tag you on it i’m gonna send it to you i’m gonna send it to everybody i can because the information that’s coming out about covenant and heart is like scary it’s wrong you don’t want this disease you really know no you do not even if it yeah i agree agreed so thank you for doing that and and also for educating people that’s a huge piece um yeah just getting that information out i’m glad that you’re able to be a conduit for that well thank you thank you so much and thank you for everything you’re doing april and getting helping people pivot because wow have we had to pivot in the last year your title couldn’t be more appropriate no we were joking around about that last year someone’s like we did trademark that right because everybody’s using it so we’ve been teasing about about we picked the perfect title indeed it’s all about pivoting and uh you know that’s what we’ve all been doing pivoting in times of uncertainty and ultimately we all getting stronger sometimes doesn’t feel like strength or growth in the moment but we’re gonna feel it afterwards for sure well michelle thank you so much again we’ll put all the links in the show notes have a wonderful day and take care thank you all right bye
In this episode, we discuss how a brain hemorrhage forced Michelle to change her perspective about life and be open to new situations. Listen in to learn the importance of representing your brand and being consistent with whatever activities you engage in.
Some Questions Asked:
- [6:04] What was the catalyst for your shift from the entertainment industry?
- [13:37] How did you deal with the identity change from your career status to what you’re doing now?
- [20:40] Where does the backbone to make all these significant changes in your life come from?
- [33:34] Did you struggle with visibility on social media?
- [43:26] In the things that you do within your Facebook and on your podcast, can you give us some insights on the topics that you discuss and the journey that you take people through?
- [52:20] What’s next for Michelle?
In This Episode You Will Learn:
- [4:07] Michelle talks about her time in the entertainment industry and how a near-death experience shifted her life and career.
- [9:03] How to shift and be available to new situations and people- how Michelle’s brain hemorrhage led to meeting her husband.
- [14:07] She explains how she dealt with shifting from a demanding job to a dedicated mom and solopreneur.
- [17:05] The importance of helping and supporting midlife women who are doing great for themselves.
- [20:57] The power of believing in yourself- that you can do whatever you set your mind to.
- [21:56] Michelle talks about her interesting experience doing the Ironman before she became a mom.
- [26:36] The time management and discipline lessons she learned from spending time with Betty White.
- [30:26] The importance of consistency and showing up when you’re needed to.
- [33:45] How to use social media to create and promote your brand as an entrepreneur.
- [39:32] Michelle explains the importance of representing your authentic self on social media.
- [43:40] How Michelle coaches people to have the right mindset, surround themselves with three types of people, and build the right habits.
- [47:18] Why you should learn to ‘eat the ugliest frog first’; which is doing what you don’t like first.
- [49:45] Why you should develop the habit of drinking water for your mental and physical wellbeing.
- [52:26] What the future looks like for Michelle- continue expanding her coaching business and podcasting.
- [53:53] She advises you to continue going, and doing what is beneficial to your life.
- “The more you’re looking at that closed door, you’re not going to be able to see the other opportunities that are coming your way.”– Michelle [10:57]
- “You’re not going to love every step of it, it’s really consistent execution that gets us there.”– April [29:17]
- “Just figure it out, keep going, and show up for yourself and for the people that you’re serving.”– Michelle [30:48]
- “It all starts and ends with your mindset.”– Michelle [44:13]
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About Our Guest:
Our guest today is the Founder & CEO of The New Mid, Michelle Newman. She is a former award-winning television executive turned transformational life coach, and host of “The New Mid” podcast, which is ranked #7 in “The Top Ten Valuable Podcasts for Midlife Women.” She works with midlife women to take charge of their future and get rid of self-limiting beliefs in order to live an abundant second half.
Michelle shifted from the entertainment industry and focused on changing her mindset and becoming a solopreneur.
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